20 Questions that will Help you to get to know your Partner and Create Deeper Intimacy & Connection

Spoiler Alert: Marriage does not always feel new and exciting. *Gasp* I know, I know. Seems a bit like a mood dimmer, but here is the thing, it is just the reality of it. Any long-term relationship can run dry of things to do and topics to talk about if there is a lack of innovation and "continued education" in the subject: your spouse. In partnership though, we can agree to curate moments and experiences that feel new and exciting, again. It takes willingness, intentionality, curiosity, creativity and a bit of vulnerable effort by two people who want to be excited!

One of the most treasured parts of being married to my husband is, even after a decade of knowing him, I still discover new layers and dimensions of him with each passing day. We all shift, change, grow and morph over time, making it extremely important to reacquaint ourselves with our partners often, to get to know who they are in that particular season of life.

In asking these questions and introducing these conversation starters into your relationship or marriage, we pray that there will be a re-connection to, a newfound passion-infused liveliness for and deep empathetic understanding of who your partner is. Happy connecting!

1.) What is your favorite attribute about yourself and why?

2.) Three things on your bucket list at the moment

3.) Where do you have “space for growth” currently? (Things you want to change, learn, examine, or work on about yourself?)

4.) Who do you most look up to and why?

5.) What mantra or motto best describes or explains your mindset and mentality?

6.) If you could go anywhere or do anything, all expenses paid, what would you do and where would you go?

7.) You have to pick an alternative career. What would it be and why?

8.) What practice or activity makes you feel at peace?

9.) What are your tendencies when you are feeling stressed?

10.) What place or location do you retreat to when you need to clear your mind?

11.) What are you looking forward to?

12.) How can I best support and care for you in this season of life? Do you have any specific struggles you are needing my help with?

13.) When you think “pleasure”, what image comes to mind?

14.) What are 3 things you are grateful for?

15.) What accomplishment are you most proud of/honored to be a part of?

16.) What is something you could not imagine telling anyone else?

17.) What do you fear most?

18.) The perfect the day?

19.) Which family member do you feel closest to right now? Has it always been this way?

20.) Who is your favorite fictional character? Why?